This week’s question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from Mike K.
Thanks so much for the opportunity to ask you this question. My question is around fear. I would LOVE to control the fear that I feel. I believe it keeps me from my success. Do you have any suggestions pertaining to HOW I can control the fear I feel?
Hi and thanks for the question.
First let’s all get on the same page.
The definition of fear is: a distressing emotion aroused by impending danger, evil, pain, etc., whether the threat is real or imagined; the feeling or condition of being afraid.
Fear is an emotion, just like happiness, sadness, joy, or anger. Because fear is an emotion, you can choose whether or not you’re going to allow yourself to be overcome by it.
Let me explain…
Typically entrepreneurs feel fear when they are faced with their own growth or when they know they must change. They feel this fear because their ego is programmed to view these opportunities for growth or change as a threat, and therefore they feel fear to keep from growing and being “at risk”.
The important thing to note in the definition is that it says the emotion is triggered whether the threat is real or IMAGINED.
Most of the time, unless your life is endangered, the fear that we feel is not real.
Here are a few truths that will help you put fear in its place so that you’re not controlled by it:
1) Spirit will never speak to you through fear.
2) When you begin to feel fear, CHOOSE to focus only on the solution or the positive in the situation, and the fear will subside.
3) Always remember that fear is a lie, so if you see yourself getting sucked into that dark place, remind yourself that it’s not real and ask yourself why you’re allowing it to control you. How is it serving you to be paralyzed by fear? You are the creator of your reality, thus the fear is created between your own ears.
4) The only way to neutralize the fear is to step through it. Fighting it or resisting it only gives it energy. For example: If you’re feeling fear about making a sales call, MAKE THE CALL and the fear will disappear.
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