This week’s question from our portal “Ask Us Anything” comes from someone who wishes to remain anonymous.
Last month, I had my best month ever at $100k. I was like, “Oh my God. That’s so cool.” When I looked at the financial statement, I was like, “Wait, whose firm is this?” It’s been a great year.
In the past, I’ve struggled with depression. I currently have some health issues and hormone crap that my doctor is helping me with, and the depression has resurfaced. I feel embarrassed even saying this, but I don’t want it to have power over me.
I’m finding that part of my “stopping pattern” has to do with depression or side effects of that, like wicked migraines. It takes so much willpower to get up, keep going, and be positive. I’m working with my therapist and all of that. We had that really great month, and wonderful things are happening. And now I’m stopping. What do I do with this depression? I feel like, “Who am I to be depressed with everything that I have?”
Don’t ever say that again, because that has nothing to do with it.
When you say that, it’s actually revealing a belief you have, that “things will make you happy.”
Depression is an interesting thing. To change it, you have to make a decision that’s totally different from how you feel.
The decision is: “I am not going to allow how I feel to control what I do.”
That has to be a decision on your part. Then, of course, you have to do everything you possibly can to alleviate the depression. Exercise is amazing for depression. Eating correctly will help. If the doctor has you on anything for migraines, hormones, etc., make sure you stick with those things.
The next thing is… as you set goals that you’re excited about, don’t leave the sight of one goal without setting another one.
Start planning for the next thing you’re going to do. Keep that out in front of you, so that you have something to work towards.
Depression can really sabotage you if there’s too big of a gap in your activities. When you have natural downtime, and you stay in it too long, you could end up with a bit of a problem.
Make sure you’re always focused on, “What is the next thing I’m going to do?”
I’m not saying don’t take time off. You just want to always have that next thing you’re working towards, in front of you.
The fact that you feel embarrassed by saying you have depression comes from a “not enough” core wound.