This week’s question from our portal “Ask Us Anything” comes from Sean.
Last week I had a freakout moment. I spiraled into a state of anger, because I felt like things weren’t getting done with my new, expanded team. I felt like people weren’t offering the level of service that we need, nor were they moving things forward. So, I removed myself from the office and let all my emotion out.
I’ve realized my anxiety is manifesting as anger and rage. I sat down and tried to figure out what the real problem is. After having a meeting with my team, I think the issue was that expectations weren’t set, and people weren’t asking for help to move things along. To solve this, we’re going to set expectations and check in every week to see what everyone has on their plate.
My question is, how do I get out of that place of anger sooner? Clearly it’s an emotional response to a stimulus.
It’s a defensive response. It’s showing you something you don’t want to see in yourself.
You’re the business owner. You’re the one who’s responsible. You have to fully step into that and accept that.
That means you have to accept everything that goes wrong is your fault, because it all falls back on the leader of the company to make any changes that are necessary to keep the business moving forward.
So, be grateful for that.
This is a wonderful opportunity for you to grow as a leader and a businessman and everywhere else in your life.
Understand that you’re going to feel frustrated at times. But as soon as you start to feel the frustration, don’t let it turn into anger. Be grateful.
Every problem is an opportunity to move forward.
Instead of going into catastrophe mode and building out scenarios in your head that haven’t happened yet… say to yourself, “Okay, this is an opportunity to grow and put a system or a process in place that will help us not have this problem in the future.”
When you catastrophize, it’s a sign of feeling out of control around the situation.
Your mind spins down and you catastrophize the problem instead of simply solving it and moving forward.
Just remember—you’re the leader. You have all the control. You can take responsibility to change anything that needs to be changed in your business.