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If they don’t get mad, you ain’t doin’ it right!


This week’s question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from an individual who wishes to remain anonymous.


Quick question: I’ve been working diligently on overcoming my inner demons and getting past my ego so I can take continuous and decisive actions in my business… it’s been a process for sure.

But how do you deal with hate email. I recently received an email from someone “DEMANDING” to be taken off my list. I had no clue she had tried and the system did not work.

My first reaction was that my fear of judgment kicked in and I felt stopped in my tracks! Thankfully I was able to get past it and back on track, but how do you deal with these intense, paralyzing (albeit temporary) fears?


Great question!

The only way to “deal” with fear, is to shine a light on it so that you can see that it’s a lie.

I know you’ve heard me say this before, but Spirit does not speak to you through fear, so anytime you feel that fear and hear those fearful voices in your head, you must stop and ask yourself whose voices those are.

Let’s go back to TRUTH. (My favorite place)

Fear is simply your ego’s way of stopping you from growing. And the fear was given to you by someone else, usually a parent or someone who had a significant role in your life.

The next time you feel fear, try identifying whose voice is talking to you because it will not be God’s.

So let’s go back to the first question you asked: How do you deal with hate mail?

My answer is that you don’t. You must understand that hate mail has everything to do with the person sending it and nothing to do with you.

You aren’t responsible for someone else’s thoughts, feelings and emotions, you are only responsible for your OWN.

Kudos to you for recognizing that it triggered your fear of judgment. If you focus your attention on why you have a fear of judgment in the first place, and let the hate mail go, the truth will set you free.

To support you in this self-discovery, I recommend that you study The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz.

“Just Believe”,®

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