Very few of us were taught to listen to our own voice, especially when it conflicted with the people who raised us.
As a result, most people continue to look to others for who they should be, what they should want, and how they should live their lives.
They never step into their own authority.
The self-confidence that they were born with lies in tatters.
And they never discover what they are truly capable of being or doing.
I think that’s criminal. And that’s why I’ve spent the past few months teaching you my five-step process for rebuilding your natural self-confidence.
Now, before I close this series, I want to leave you with one last teaching and a tool
Confidence Is a Decision
You could spend a lifetime getting ready to be your own authority, but that, alone, does nothing.
You have to make a decision.
You have to draw a line in the sand and say: “Enough! No one knows what I want better than I do. No one else is in charge of me but me.”
To help you make your decision clear and firm, I want you to create your own Circle of Self-Authority. It will only take a couple of minutes, but, as I’ll explain, its results can be far-reaching.
My Circle of Self-Authority
Fill in the spaces below.
This is who I am and what I stand for:
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This is what I want in my life:
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This is what I aspire to be, do or have:
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These are the experience I want to have in my life:
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This is how much money I want to make:
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This is how I want to give back to others in my life:
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This is also important to me:
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Your Rallying Cry to the Universe
Now, stand behind your list.
Allow everything in your life to emanate from it.
Let it determine who your friends and associates are, what you will and won’t tolerate, what agreements you will make, what direction you will go in, even where you choose to go on vacation.
If you stand behind yourself like that, not only will your self-confidence soar, but the universe will hear your firm decision as a rallying cry and begin to bring to you the experiences and people and opportunities that you’ve decided to have
In addition, your list will help you separate the wheat from the chaff.
We’re all bombarded with offers every day. If we’re not vigilant and focused on our goals, we can very easily get pulled off by the next, new shiny object into one direction after another that doesn’t serve us.
However, with your clear set of parameters about who you are and what you want, assessing new opportunities is easy.
Just ask yourself, “Does this move me closer to my goal?” If yes, consider it.
If not, walk away, secure in the knowledge that everything you need and want is on its way.
And your next step toward the future you’ve chosen is right around the corner.
