This week’s question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from Mandy B.
Hi David,
I loved your last post about relationships, and could really use your help with something. With the Holidays being in full swing, I know that I’m going to have to spend time with a family member that I’ve had a less than pleasant experience with this year. I’m over the hurt, but I do not trust them. I don’t want seeing them to send me in a tailspin…is this lack of trust going to deter my success after the holidays?
Hi Mandy!
If someone has not earned your trust, or has broken your trust in the past, you can love them for who they are, but ultimately you have to make a decision about whether or not you want to spend time with them and share your life with them.
Trust should ALWAYS be earned.
As I wrote last week, the only way your family member can hold you back is if you make decisions based on what they think, rather than what you want.
If you find yourself caring more about what someone else thinks rather than what you think, you are holding yourself back.
But here is the most important lesson for you:
I want you to understand that if someone has broken your trust, chances are you’ve done the same thing to someone else and this situation is simply a mirror for you.
Remember you attract everything in your life from a place of who you are being, and to not take responsibility for part of the situation will only keep it alive and painful.
If you can see the truth in what happened, it will set you free.
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