This week’s question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from someone who wishes to remain anonymous.
David,
How do you learn to trust yourself again after “failures” when your sub-conscious very strongly keeps reminding you of those failures and constructs new ways of keeping you stuck?
Fantastic question!
Failure is simply a judgment placed on a result.
The real problem lies with how we THINK and FEEL about failure.
If you fail and attach emotional meaning to that failure, it will trigger a core belief about yourself.
You may even say things to yourself like:
“I’m not smart enough, I’m never going to succeed, I can’t believe this isn’t working, what’s wrong with me?”
“My parents were right…”
Or even
“ I don’t even know why I bother…”
This is how the downward spiral starts.
The truth is that failure is nothing more than a result.
And the purpose of that result is for our own learning. Begin to see failure as a GIFT.
Ask yourself:
What don’t I understand about this?
Who do I need to be to get a different result?
The most successful people in the world have experienced more failure than success.
After all, your own success lies in the ability to respond to results… to course correct and take risks in order to get different results without attaching emotions.
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