This week’s question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from someone who wishes to remain anonymous.
Hi David,
I’ve heard you say we’re responsible for controlling our thoughts, what we say, and what we put out there to market our business. But we’re not responsible for how another person interprets what we say. “I’m not responsible for what someone understands.” Does that mean I’m not supposed to care about how they respond? Should I try to help them even if they don’t get it?
There’s a difference between not being responsible for how they interpret it and trying to help them see it in a more productive light.
If someone is working with me, I’ll always go to the 9th or 10th degree to help them see things in a more productive light—because I know they’re stuck. I know they’re coming from the reality of their current experience, or from a past story, or maybe even trauma in their life. And I know how difficult it is to break through that.
When a person completely rejects what you’re saying or trying to do, there’s nothing you can do about that.
Just understand that they’re responsible for how they interpret it and for what they decide to do with that information.
It’s totally okay to try to help a person understand something. But look at the context. Why are you having a conversation with this person to begin with?
Did they ask for help?
If they didn’t ask for help, in my opinion, it’s not our right to run in and save people.
My mentor Bob Proctor told me, “Everybody has a right to be as miserable as they want to be.”
We make ourselves miserable when we start going out there and trying to correct everybody else.
We have enough work to do on our own plate.
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