This week’s question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from TJ.
Hi David!
I’ve been studying your teachings for some time now, but my wife has no interest in wealth mindset. We both have very different beliefs around money and it’s starting to create a wedge in our relationship. Do you have any suggestions on how to meet her halfway and maintain the integrity of our relationship?
This is a great question, and one I get quite often. I wrote about this back in 2012 that I’ll repost below.
Money and relationships are pretty tricky, but they don’t have to be.
If you and your wife have different beliefs around money, I recommend that you both start taking responsibility for yourselves.
Make your own money, have your own banking accounts, and split the joint bills and expenses.
If you want to save for a trip and she doesn’t, go without her, but be prepared for her to do the same.
So many couples struggle with money, especially if one partner makes more than the other. Sometimes it works great and other times it’s incredibly disempowering for the person who is not the breadwinner.
If you feel like your decisions are limited by your wife’s money mindset, you need to have a heart to heart conversation with her, and let her know that from now on, you’ll both be responsible for the bills, but that everything else will go into separate accounts.
This gives her the freedom to do what she wants with her income, and it gives you the freedom as well.
It’s against the laws to ask her to change, this way, you’ll both have the freedom to believe what you want about money and spend as save as you wish.
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