This week’s question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from someone who wishes to remain anonymous.
Hi David,
There is a person in my life who sees the negative in every situation. If he does say something good or nice about something, he ends it with a negative. How do you handle a situation like this? Oh…I should probably mention the person I’m referring to is my partner.
Hi!
I think it’s important to understand that you don’t have to “handle” the situation.
I think a better question to ask is, “Why am I choosing to have this negative person in my life?”
1) This person has every right to be negative and judgmental, and it’s not anyone else’s responsibility or right to change him/her.
2) When you’re around someone who is negative, it is very hard for to consciously reject their thoughts and feelings, and pretty soon you may find yourself uttering those same negative words. You are influenced by the people around you whether you want to admit it or not.
My mentor, Bob Proctor, refused to spend time with people who are negative and lack-minded, because he knew they had the ability to change his thinking without him even realizing it, and I feel the same way.
So are you choosing to spend time with this person in hopes of changing them?
Or
Are you afraid to remove yourself from this negative person’s life?
Get very honest with yourself…
It all boils down to making a decision based upon what’s in your best interest with the understanding that everyone else has the right to think, live and believe whatever they choose.
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