This week’s question from our portal “Ask Us Anything” comes from Karen.
As my awareness grows, I’m finding it challenging to navigate social situations with people who operate mostly at level one consciousness. I notice the difference between my thinking and theirs, and when I don’t participate in conversations about things like complaining about the weather, I come across as standoffish or difficult. I’d like to have more friends and relationships, but it’s hard when I feel like I’m floating in different awareness levels. How do I enjoy these interactions more and not feel so disconnected?
You just let everybody have their opinion and know that they’re on their journey. You don’t have to agree with it, and you don’t have to disagree with it openly either.
If you’re in a conversation where everybody’s talking negatively about the weather and you’re being quiet, if they judge you for being quiet, that’s their problem, not yours. If they ask why you don’t have an opinion, you can simply say, “I’m just listening. I think this is a fascinating conversation.” If pressed for your opinion on the weather, you can say, “I really don’t have one. The weather’s the weather. It just is.”
There’s also a maturity shift that happens here:
As you increase your consciousness, you have to change where you get your needs met
because people at lower levels don’t have the ability to meet your higher-level needs anymore.
You no longer need their appreciation, agreement, hope, or love in the same way. So you can just sit and observe. You can get very good at changing conversations, making things funny, or introducing different ideas to move the energy because they’re reactionary – they’re not thinking, just reacting.
You can move conversations anywhere you want them to go. Talk about something else and they’ll react to it. I do this all the time with family. You’re just having fellowship with people, casual conversation. If it starts going to a dark place, redirect it or just observe.
The key is not trying to get something from that group of people. That’s what makes it uncomfortable and frustrating. Don’t feel any need to change them. Work on finding something interesting about them. Ask about places they’ve been or experiences they’ve had that might lead to more engaging conversation.
