This week’s question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from someone who wishes to remain anonymous.
Hi David,
Lately, I’ve been struggling with buyer’s remorse on 98% of things I buy.
When COVID hit, I still wasn’t earning anything from my business. My husband and I don’t have problems with money. But for the first time, he was worried about money. I got pregnant, and we considered pulling our daughter from daycare to cut expenses. I became an “extreme coupon” person, and now I have remorse for everything I buy. Even with groceries, I’m like, “Do I really need that?” How can I drop this habit?
Part of it is, it’s a way for you not to feel guilty about starting a business. You have to look at what your husband’s experience was—and your reaction to his experience in that moment. You created a new habit of asking, “Should I not buy this? Should I not do this?”
It’s kind of like, “Well, I’m going to do it anyway.” It’s a way for you to re-project your guilt in a different direction.
Here’s how you change this.
You change it by raising your standard of how you want to live your life. You never cut things to go down to where your income is. You raise your income to what your standard is, so cutting is no longer an option.
Once you become aware that you can manifest whatever you want, you never cut anything to go lower unless you actually want to go lower.
Let’s say a family wants to downsize. There’s no problem with that. But if you’re doing it because you think you have no control over your income, that’s a problem. You start to go unconscious again. Then you start coming up with alternate behaviors (like extreme coupon cutting).
You need to create a vision and a standard for your marriage, your life, and your finances—and then raise everything up to meet that standard.
That’s where you put your energy. You raise it up.
It’s no longer about questioning whether you need something or not. It’s about saying, “This is the standard I’m living at, and I completely accept that in my life.” Then you don’t have a conflict of interest or a value conflict going on subconsciously.
Once you’ve raised your standard, that’s it. Now your standard has to be higher.
There should be no going back.
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