If you practice Steps 1-4 as I’ve been teaching you to do in this series, a rise in self-confidence will occur as a natural result.
In other words, if you identify the thought that is keeping you stuck, and then replace that thought with one based on Universal Law (Steps 1 and 2), you’ve dealt with the part of your problem that you are consciously aware of.
However, it is often difficult to identify the real problem.
For example, earlier in this series, I told you about my client who was afraid to make sales calls because he cared so much what people thought about him.
I helped him to understand this was because he was still trying to get approval from his father, and because he didn’t accept himself.
Therefore, every sales conversation became a conversation with his father, where he wanted his prospects to accept him, too.
Not only does that kind of neediness repel clients, but if he’s seeking approval from his clients, he can’t help them. For instance, he won’t say what they need to hear if they might get mad at him as a result.
That’s not serving the client. That’s serving his own ego needs at the expense of the client.
Confidence from the Inside Out
When you put a new roof on your house, you don’t want to just slap new shingles onto a rotting roof deck. You want to make sure the decking is sound.
That’s why in Steps 3 and 4 I had you go deeper, into your subconscious, which, in fact, directs your results.
To change negative beliefs in your subconscious, I asked you to identify the cause of what you want, and then take bold action toward that goal.
For instance, the cause of deep friendships in your life is to be a friend yourself, and to take bold friendship actions on a daily basis.
By taking bold action, you get a new result, which your subconscious has to accept. That creates a new belief that then begins to direct even better results. And step by powerful step you begin to change your life for good.
This naturally infuses your entire being with confidence from the inside out.
Acknowledge and Celebrate
So here we arrive at Step 5, where you begin to see those fruits of your diligence and hard work.
The life you want is beginning to unfold before your eyes, and your confidence continues to grow. As your confidence grows, you take bigger and bolder actions, which creates an amazing upward spiral of results.
That’s wonderful, but don’t just gloss over your success.
Don’t just move on to the next big thing, without acknowledging your accomplishment, without saying to yourself: “Hey, look what I did!” Without feeling that healthy flush of pride, and letting it rush through you.
That’s why Step 5 is about acknowledgment and celebration.
I want you to pause for a moment to look back at how far you’ve come.
Revel in your new-found, unshakeable self-confidence.
And give yourself a big pat on the back for a job well done.
