This week’s question from our portal “Ask Us Anything” comes from Brandon.
I catch myself going into two extremes – either making things harder for myself when I want to proceed with goals, or going into laziness where I think “it’s easy, it’s gonna be here” but don’t actually act on it. How do I get back on track?
You have two choices. You can either quit or you can get moving. There’s no other choice.
Laziness, I can’t fix. Only you can fix that. You gotta be serious about what you’re doing. You cannot tolerate being lazy when you’re going for a goal. It’s never gonna come just sitting on the couch.
When I say success is easy, I mean it’s easy in what you’re doing to bring it in. It’s not easy in that you’re not gonna do anything and it’s gonna show up at the front door. The difficulty takes place in your head.
As long as you keep engaging in negative conversations with your friends or family every day, it reinforces your beliefs.
You can’t get out and be successful while engaging in negative conversations every day. I’ve never seen anybody do it.
You keep basically asking the same question in a roundabout way. There’s no other answer. You have two choices: either say “fuck it, I quit” and live the life you’re currently living and don’t ever go after your dream – this way you won’t be disappointed. Or you can start playing hardball with yourself and start changing the things you already know you need to change.
The pattern you’re describing – going back into being a complainer and wishing you had this or wishing you did that – that’s what happens when you keep engaging in those conversations with people who operate at lower consciousness levels. They don’t have the ability to meet your higher-level needs anymore, so you get pulled back down.
You no longer need their appreciation, agreement, hope, or love in the same way. But as long as you keep seeking it from them, you’ll keep getting frustrated and falling back into old patterns.
Remember who’s going to take care of you when you’re 80 years old. Because that family that’s keeping you stuck in complaining and negative thinking? They’re not going to be the ones supporting your dreams or your future.
