This week’s question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from Bernadette.
Question:
Hi David,
This person in my life sees the negative in every situation and people. If he does say something good or nice about people he ends it with a negative. How do you handle a situation like this?
Answer:
Hi Bernadette!
I think it’s important to understand that you don’t have to “handle” the situation.
I think a better question to ask yourself is, “Why am I choosing to have this negative person in my life?“
There are 2 things we need to understand.
1) This person has every right to be negative and judgmental, and it’s not anyone else’s responsibility or right to change him/her.
2) When you’re around someone who is negative it is very hard for you to consciously reject their thoughts and feelings, and pretty soon you may find yourself uttering those same negative words. You are influenced by the people around you whether you want to admit it or not.
My mentor refused to spend time with people who are negative and lack-minded, because he knew they had the ability to change his thinking without him even realizing it, and I feel the same way.
So are you choosing to spend time with this person in hopes of changing them?
Or
Are you afraid to remove yourself from this negative person’s life?
Get very honest with yourself…
It all boils down to making a decision based upon what’s in your best interest understanding that everyone else has the right to think, live and believe whatever they choose.
“Just Believe”,®
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