This week’s question from our portal “Ask Us Anything” comes from Brad.
My question is about being triggered. Last week, I filed a complaint with my legal insurance. Their response was to say that I’m not complaining, I’m suing them — which is BS. I got really triggered by it…because they’re not being constructive with it, they’re dodging, they’re not taking me seriously. They’re unwilling to solve the issue. These are all things my mother used to do.
I’ve done your “projection” worksheet, so I know where my triggered feeling is coming from. But even after doing the worksheet, I’m still staying triggered. That takes up a lot of energy that I could be putting towards more useful things. How do I get out of being triggered with things like this?
One of the things to realize about something like this, is that you have no power to do anything about it.
That’s one of the reasons why the trigger doesn’t go away so easily — because the trigger has to move to acceptance.
You might not like it. You might think it’s BS. But if you don’t have any power to change the situation, you have to accept it and just walk away from it.
The faster you accept it when you can’t do something about it,
the easier it is to let it go.
When there’s something I can’t control, I don’t want it taking up any room in my mind. Instead of belaboring it or ruminating on it over and over again, I want to be free of it.
Ask yourself:
“What’s a higher value for myself? —> Freedom. They can keep their BS. I’m going to move forward. I’m creating my own experience. They can keep their nonsense.”
This is the only way to be free of the situation in your mind.
