This week’s question from our portal “Ask Us Anything” comes
Certain circumstances are hitting me all at once, making me feel bad, and they seem to be piling on. I know I’m creating this and need to take responsibility for bringing a new energy into it—and either move on from the situation, or change it. I’m aware that I was in a negative pattern; I expected the situation to go the way it did and was waiting for the other shoe to drop. Now I’d like a different result. I want a different energy, so that I don’t repeat this same negative pattern.
How do you recover quickly from this? When you’re having all these blows—and even having physical feelings in your body—how do you move through those feelings in a way that keeps you moving towards your goals and dreams? I know these circumstances are there to test my perseverance.
Hold on—it’s not a test. The universe does not “test” us. It does not say, “You have to pass this test to go to the next place.” That’s an old working class concept that comes from school.
Those circumstances are there to teach you the lesson you need to learn to move forward.
Whenever you set a big goal, you’re going to make mistakes. The mistakes are just pinpointing what lesson you need to learn to go to the next place.
So, don’t view it as a mistake. View it as a lesson. That way, you won’t internalize negativity around it—which then affects your body, your decision-making, and your emotions.
Be grateful. Celebrate it. Tell yourself, “This is great because now I have a bigger viewpoint of what I need to correct in order to continue going forward.”
To shift your experience, you must shift from being the victim to the creator. This isn’t happening TO you—it’s happening FOR you
You’re not a victim. You’re a creator.
What’s the lesson you need to learn from the thing that didn’t go the way you wanted it to? What is the “cause and effect”? What caused it to go wrong? What needs to change?
“Here’s an effect that didn’t go the way I wanted it to. What did I do or not do that caused it?”
Try to look at it objectively and bring in data to help if you have it, so that you’re less likely to rely on your “feelings” about it.
You want to make decisions based on moving forward, NOT out of your past.
Ask yourself: what is the ultimate outcome that I want? Where do I see myself in the future having this go right? Then EXPECT that to happen.
Make an affirmation. Read, repeat, and confirm it every day. Tell yourself: “I’m not going to expect something negative. I’m going to expect this new outcome.” Move it from your conscious mind to your subconscious mind. Get emotionally involved with the positive outcome you want. Then engage with your power to choose.
If there’s a mechanical aspect to it, where you’re doing something incorrectly, you would have to change that also.
When you create a new belief and an expectation for what you want, you’ll think and act different, based on that belief and expectation.
Hope that helps!
David
P.S. Victim thinking permeates our culture, and unfortunately, nobody is immune to it. That’s why my program, The Elite Mind (TEM) is such a powerful structure to place yourself in—you can immerse yourself in the creator mindset and get a different outcome for yourself. During the first 90 days of TEM, you’ll learn how to shift from being a victim to being a creator in life. This is one of the foundational mindset shifts needed to experience true success. Often, my clients are shocked to see where they’re still being a victim in their thinking, and how quickly they can change it.
To learn more, or to join the next round of TEM, Click here. We start on November 18th.
