This week’s question from our portal “Ask Us Anything” comes
I think I’m bumping up against my financial upper limit. Last week I booked my second client in a week, and made more money in that week than I made all last year. That was a huge celebration.
But now I feel self-sabotage coming on. I’m taking my foot off the gas pedal, as far as reaching out to people. My marketing also isn’t as pinpointed as it’s been in the past. I feel imposter syndrome. Just last week, I thought about quitting and getting get a 9 to 5 job.
What caused this thought is—my husband is leaving his pharmacy job next month, so it will just be me making the income. I’m nervous about that. How do I stop the self-sabotage?
Okay, here’s what you do. First of all, it’s fantastic that you’re recognizing this.
However, the new behavior pattern you want to create for yourself is:
“Every time I make a sale—or if I get ahead on my sales—that’s not a destination; that’s a great result. I must be consistent and I must stay consistent in my business behavior for long term.”
Whenever we take our foot off the gas because we got a little bit ahead, that’s coming from the old paradigm of destination thinking—like, “I can’t wait to get done so I don’t have to work.”
When you have a win, that’s wonderful. See it, celebrate it—and then it’s onward. Onward all the time. We go onto the next thing, the next call, the next program, the next sale, whatever it is.
We don’t get hung up on any one big win—and we don’t get hung up on any big loss either. They’re like ships passing in the night. You’re going to have them on both sides.
The key to success is consistency.
If you’re consistent and you’re moving in a consistent direction upward, no matter how slight it is, you’ll always come out ahead.
When you feel self-sabotage coming on, find something that works for you to shift the thought. Either journal about it, meditate about it, go for a walk, or do something else. Use the laws though to help you in your thinking.
During those moments, that’s where I use phrases like, “God is good. God is great all the time.” If negative thoughts come into my mind, I just try to let them pass. I don’t hold onto them.
Bob Proctor used to say, “Say next. When a thought comes in that’s negative, say next”—meaning, “onward to the next thought.” Don’t grab onto it.
That’s what most people do—they grab onto it, they obsess, and they go down a rabbit hole.
Allow yourself to feel the imposter syndrome or whatever the negative idea is, and work with that idea, then let it go.
By the way, imposter syndrome is somebody else’s voice. Kids don’t have imposter syndrome; they get it from other people. Just like they get being a victim from another person. Kids don’t naturally think themselves to be a victim. It’s taught.
Whose voice is in your head?
David
P.S. If you’re ready to stop the self-sabotae and start reaching your goals, then join me for the next round of The Elite Mind (TEM) program—my DAILY coaching program designed to make you accountable to your own success (whatever that looks like for you). During the first 90 days, we zero in on the foundational frameworks needed to lock in consistency as a daily habit. You’re already consistent; but if you haven’t reached your goals, then you might be consistent at the wrong things. Let’s change that!
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